Usually my Monday Motivation is something I need to tell myself or remind myself. Something to motivate myself. And, sometimes it is something that happened over the weekend that gave me the light-bulb moment. I share them because I believe that many of you are just like me. So, why not share? Because as my kids will tell you . . .
This weekend was one of my favorite weekends. It was full of everything and we were all together. My oldest daughter was home for the first time being away at college. My middle daughter had her homecoming weekend. My youngest celebrated his 13th birthday. It was a weekend that was full of everything and it was a weekend that was good because we were together as a family doing what we do. I did not plan out every minute and I did not make it more than it had to be. I just let it fall into place.
What I have learned over the years, for our family, is that bigger doesn’t always mean better. Having a plan isn’t always a good thing because when it doesn’t go as planned I can get frustrated. And, I have learned that I don’t need to make things harder than they have to be. My kids don’t need a grand experience or a big birthday party. Which is good because they all have birthdays during the end of year with a million holidays and stuff that happens toward the end of the year. Don’t get me wrong, it is fun to have grand experiences and fun parties, but they don’t have to happen every year. I don’t feel the pressure to make the next one just as awesome or better.
This year, I asked my son what he wanted for his birthday. He didn’t really have any ideas for me. Earlier in the month, he proclaimed it was the “Month of Kyle.” I know you will probably think I am a bad parent (but I don’t care) that I laughed and said “Guess what isn’t happening? A Month of Kyle. Sorry, dude, but you just aren’t that important to devote an entire month.” However, once I thought about it, I decided you know what I could do? I could do a Week of Kyle. It wasn’t anything extravagant. For example, one night was pizza from Dominos (his favorite) and Dunkin’ Donuts for dessert (another favorite.) Normally, we would do a family dinner to celebrate the birthday, but that was not working out with everyone’s schedules. The solution, we did a Birthday Breakfast on Saturday morning (but extra early because there was soccer practice.) It was just as nice as a dinner (and we did end up going out for a steak dinner on his actually birthday, but my oldest was already on a plane back to school .) On our way to soccer practice, my boy turned to me and said, “Mom, this has been the best birthday ever.” No expensive gifts, no grand party, no amazing experience just celebrating him and his favorite things and spending time together. The little things that we did all week, they added up to be a big thing. (NOTE: I consider this an accidental parenting win!)
Lots of love,